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Special Education has become a million dollar business. Although many black boys can benefit from the additional services offered within the public school system, it is essential that parents are aware of the limitations. |
According to the Civil Rights Project at Harvard University, young Black males are at greater risk of being disproportionately labeled "mentally retarded." Single mothers raising boys who are placed in special education programs should become experts of the systems.
Each year we receive thousands of calls from mothers whose sons are misdiagnosed and "locked" into special education programs. The following are some basic recommendations for navigating the IEP Process:
- Understand the IEP Process. IEP stands for Individual Educational Plan. The IEP is developed to provide detailed information for appropriate decisions to be made about your son's educational placement.
- Prior to the IEP meeting, reach out to an education advocate or teacher that has a back ground in special education. These professionals can help you understand the role of the IEP process.
- Write down questions and comments that you may have about how your son learns and processes information.
- Review and understand your options about attending an IEP meeting. Many parents may be unable to attend, based on your work schedule. Review options with the school. Parents may have to schedule a conference call to complete IEP process.
Pam is a 27 year old mother from Gary, Indiana. Pam works two jobs, doesn't not have health insurance and is raising two Black male children. Both of Pam's sons are in special education programs. Pam youngest son, Jiteam is extremely bright but has a problem staying in his seat in school. Jiteam is an energetic, handsome 15 year old. Well liked by his peer, Jiteam is always in the main office.
Jiteam has been diagnosed with ADHD. Pam is getting a lot of pressure from the school social worker, teachers and principal to place her son on medication. Our advice for Pam and the millions of others mothers like Pam:
While we believe medication can help in some circumstances, I am concerned with the large number of African American boys who are medicated. Consider these alternative options:
- Choose diets low in sugar and refined carbohydrate, high in quality protein (your son should not be eating candy and drinking soda). Several studies in the United States of children who have been diagnosed with ADHD show remarkable improvements when the children are placed on diets which eliminate dyes, preservatives and foods commonly associated with allergic reactions (cow's milk, wheat, soy, eggs, corn, chocolate, yeast, orange and apple juice).
- Increase exercise and physical fitness (Sports- swimming, basketball, football, soccer and others).
- Increase activities that focus on concentration (Chess, Tai Chi and Yoga).
Keep your Eyes on the Prize- Remember That This is Your Son
While your son may have a disability, he is still a human being. Your son still needs your love and support. Love your son and enjoy spending time with him.
Connect with other Moms- Realize That You Are Not Alone
So many moms' are in your shoes. The feeling of isolation at the time of diagnosis is almost universal among parents. Get involved with support groups, visit web sites and seek other opportunities to meet others who have a son with a disability.
Language is Important- Learn the Terminology
Learn the language and key terms associated with your son's disability. When speaking to doctors and social workers, you want to be well informed.
Become the Expert- Seek Information
Some mothers accept the diagnosis and the information given by the medical community. Single mothers must become more informed and willing to investigate new research and treatments.
Be strong and assertive- Do Not Be Intimidated
As a single mother, you may feel inadequate at times dealing with the pressures from medical or educational professionals. Do not be intimidated by the educational backgrounds of these and other professionals who may be involved in treating or helping your son. Your son's health and well being is your number one concern.
Develop Thick Skin- Deal with Natural Feelings of Bitterness and Anger
It's natural to feel bitter and even question your spiritual foundation when you give birth to a child with a disability. After you acknowledge your own pain, it's time to "step up" and live for your son.
Keep Your Head Up- Maintain a Positive Outlook
A positive attitude in the long run will help you and your son. Many boys with disabilities have grown up to live productive lives.
Be Resourceful- Find Programs for Your Child
Many programs exist in each state. Be aggressive and don't take "no" for an answer.
Keep it Simple- Keep Daily Routines as Normal as Possible
Maintain normal routines and keep life as simple as possible. This will help your family as you raise a son with a disability. |
